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EMOTIONAL NEEDS OF CHILDREN

Loads of love, understanding and patience, not only from the parents but the environment around every child is the basic emotional need of every child and human. Childhood is the most important period of a child’s life, right from early childhood a child is curious, inquisitive and exploring,and well that is the nature of all the children. How well does a parent react with this nature of the child is so detrimental in shaping the attitude of the child. If a parent is impatient and aggressive the child grows timid, shy and unsure of himself.

Constantly being checked by a parent for making mistakes, would never make a child sure of himself. He or she would grow up with the need of pleasing the parent always resulting in looking for approval, being indecisive and unsure of himself. Compare it to a child who makes mistakes, breaks things and yet the parent gives him that space, the freedom to make a mistake and still encourage him, he would grow up with an attitude of being so sure of himself as he would know that irrespective of the mistakes being made he is still capable of taking his decisions and even if wrong is still accepted by the parents. This would give him the immense confidence of being a child sure about himself.

Every action which has taken place in childhood leaves an impact on the mind of a child.

Children grow, they mature, raise their own families but somewhere the sentiments of childhood are deeply imbedded in the subconscious, unknowingly affecting so many of their decisions and their basic attitude.

The formative years of a child’s life are the most important years, as much as a parent would like to think that he is being cautious in handling the child, saving him in case he gets hurt the parent is laying the foundation for an unsure adult. It’s not about throwing caution to the wind and letting a child fall off the roof, but it is all about keeping a vigilant eye and yet giving the child some space to grow. After all, every child only learns to walk after falling a few steps. He only learns to cycle after falling off it a couple of times.

Over cautious parents sometimes don’t even let a child crawl for the danger that he might scratch his knee or pick up some infection from the floor, isn’t that a little strange as we all have grown up crawling, climbing trees, running around the parks playing pitthu garam , chain-chain, hide and seek etc.

Some food for thought…..

•How was our own childhood? And now how are we handling life?
•Does it have some reflection of our childhood and needs or are we so different from what our parents were…?
Thus,love, understanding, unconditional acceptance by a parent are the most important needs of a child

Deepinder Sekhon : Having an experience of more than 20 years in handling tiny tots to adolescents, my interests are varied. From doing interventions for children with special needs (individually and in schools), I do assessments for scholastic delays as well as other disorders in children. A very interesting area of my work is doing family therapy as mostly the problems in children if not medical are stemming up from home, along with working with children individually, I am a teacher, trainer at various private schools and at HIPA. Previously a consultant with The Fortis Hospital for more than 06 years, currently a consultant with The Indian Spinal Injuries center Vasant Kunj.

My qualifications are B.Ed, Masters, Advanced Diploma in Child guidance &Counseling (NIPCCD, Ministry of Social Justice and Empowerment, Govt. of India), FCECD (RCI), currently pursuing my Doctorate in Interventions for Children with Special Needs (NUEPA, MHRD, Govt. of India






“What is it that seems to be absent in the modern education system?”

The load has been fervently reduced, the stress for students has decreased and what they may lack in marks can be made up in projects so they can get the grades they desire.

So, then, what exactly is it that seems to be almost…missing?

I passed my twelfth just this year and I’m part of one of those few batches who have lived through both systems of education. The new age of CGPAs and FAs along with the old one where each mark counted. And although I can see great advantages of this new form of teaching, I unfortunately have to say, there are a few things that have been lost in the process.

Teachers have always been given the greatest regard in a person’s life. Apart from their parents, the children have their teachers to look upto, to learn from and to shape themselves as the future generation. Be it any corner of the world, a teacher is given the same regard, no matter the difference in their given moniker.

Sensei, Professeur, Uchitel’, Leraar, Guru.

Their greatest task; imparting wisdom.

I remember myself as an eager 8th grader, looking forward to my English lecture. Classwork aside, I always knew I was in for a treat because our teacher would take us on a journey with just her words. Invoking every emotion of every character within us with her mere voice and allowing us to comprehend different factions of human nature. Or my 10th grade History teacher who taught us about the past of the world we live in by painting story after story, our textbooks long forgotten.

Because those words in the textbook didn’t hold what the knowledge of a teacher does. The true value of wisdom they impart.

A big concern for the faculty today seems to be completing the syllabus. The understanding, assimilation and application of said knowledge seems to come in second. And this is no fault of the teachers, obviously. From conducting 8 FA projects a year, to forming the question paper and finishing up the required portion, they seem occupied.

And in all that flurry, we have misplaced the one of the things that make our teachers such amazing illuminators. The true value, the very significance of what they handed over to the children with the utmost care. That attentiveness, that utmost fragility with which the teachers treated each slice of lesson that they passed on is slowly, but steadily eradicating.

And with this ever-changing times, I feel as if losing that warmth, that concern that only a teacher showed for their students will be a priceless loss. Students these days wouldn’t know what it means to truly learn in a classroom.

It wasn’t always about what’s in the books. I remember teachers going out of their way to bring in more information from subjects not even their own. Sharing titbits to keep each and every student interested and always willing to part their learning.

The knowledge that children are imbibing today may help them achieve their aimed marks, but it is fleeting and superfluous. Nothing that sticks with them for years making them question and contemplate any and all things.

This new form of education is efficient, that is for sure. However, is the price of it meant to be cutting corners on intellect of the future generations? Not only are the students missing out, but this depreciates the very role of an educationist.

So, answer this, ‘how is it fair that the very system that is meant to make things far more easier for the faculty, is really an obstacle in disguise?’

Akshara : I am 19 years old. My obsessions include books, movies, music and more books! :) I am currently pursuing my undergrad in psychology and I hope to someday start and finish writing a novel! :)







“TaareZameen Par…..”

Everytime I watch TaareZameenpar..I feel like a fish out of water.

With all due respect to the alma mater...
But seriously, I know schools used to be truly just this bad.
I see the same acts : some teacher hitting you on your knuckles with a ruler...Some teacher throwing a chalk at your face. Being asked to kneel outside the class, being ridiculed for giving the wrong answer or for any foolish mistake, flashing your notebook with the mistake to the whole class The big talk about discipline..
Seriously… are u building up humans..
or breaking precious spirits..?
I suppose not everyone experienced this...But I was destined to be one of the privileged ones..
And that's why I was left feeling nothing...Nomotivation....except maybe for subjects like English and Grammar. Hence I was never the 'good student'..
I was barely noticed for anything good, except maybe a few times for essays.
The library and a few select friends were my refuge.
When I think of it..it is way, way , way too scary..
How all those insults were acceptable...
How it was most natural to be ridiculed, laughed at , insulted…When I did well in essays I got a drawin
g book as an award..
The ideology was to round me off…Like smoothening any sharp corner that juts out..
Apparently it's not good that one skill dominates. So they encourage you to be jack of all trades.. School for some can be a place to fear, a palace to be lost …a place to feel completely alone and out of place. In case you are one of those unlucky ones who do not shine through or not have enough friends in the school at least not in the tender years..
Such an experience can make or break you.
I haven't raised a child so I don't know , there might be discipline aspects I might be missing here.But I sure was a kid..And I did not like what I experienced in school.. I believe there should be just as much attention , encouragement, love as much as discipline..
There is no better phrase for kids.
TaareZameen par…
Ensure they don't get lost:
Harbachhaapnehisab se wazanuthatahai..

Swati Tandale :I love stories. When I was a kid I listened to my granny tell them to me.. Now I am a privileged reporter of announcing to the world, the beautiful stories that happen around me..or to me..It's a passion it's not a profession.. Not yet at least.. Someday when I'm not this lazy.. I intend to spread these stories around the world.. Like a universal granny.. That's me in a nutshell….







“FEEDING INFANTS”

A universal complaint by most mothers I meet – “my baby doesn’t eat food or it’s a task getting him/her to eat anything.

Thankfully, I did not have to go through this though being a first time mother, had no experience or proper guidance but I went with my gut to decide what is going to be right for my son at every stage.
My son was born preterm at 30 weeks 3 days weighing just 1.2 kg. When he came home after being in NICU for 45 days, he was still not even 2 kg. So I was always a very paranoid mother …always too concerned about his weight gain. When my son started with semi solids, I was very particular about certain things and with my experience; I would like to share few points that might help others also:
1. Always have a schedule for your baby :
When I started giving him the first semi solid i.e. dal or mashed banana… I made sure to give it to him around the same time every day. So for every food given I had a certain schedule that I follow till date.
This helps your baby to feel hungry around that time and he/she would become cranky and you would know it’s time to feed them. Secondly, there are less chances of their stomach getting upset as they have routine that they follow.
This helps your baby to feel hungry around that time and he/she would become cranky and you would know it’s time to feed them. Secondly, there are less chances of their stomach getting upset as they have routine that they follow.

2. Make feeding time interesting:
Babies should feel happy while having food. You should not make this like just another job that needs tobe done. I have always sung rhymes or songs to make my son and continue to do so till date. Keep talking to them… crack a joke… just make sure they are happy and smiling while eating and never make them eat while the TV is on.
3.Make feeding time interesting:
Introduce babies to a lot of variety at an early age so that they don’t get bored soon. Give them minimum two fruits in a day. This helps them taste a variety and get used to eating different food at an early stagewhich will help you a lot later.
4.Make them sit and eat with you :
When babies are able to sit properly on their own, let them sit and have food with you.Make them sit on a high chair and have food with everyone in the house. This way they can start tasting the food that has been cooked foreveryone because when they see everyone eating, they also want to imitate you.
5.Have Patience and Keep Trying :
Having patience is the key. Many a times baby may refuse to eat or not be in amood to eat but, do not give up….Keep trying the next day….again and again and again…….They might spit itout a lot many times but surely your patience will pay off.

Jaya Gaur